For me, the wedding day is the most important event in the life of two lovers, the highest expression of their love and commitment to each other; and therefore it should be celebrated with due emphasis.
My story as an Officiant began with my personal wedding. Me and my husband-to-be wanted a simple, romantic & memorable wedding, with a personal touch and a bespoke wording. No grand pronouncements, or rigorous legal speeches with no emotional involvement, but a joyful heartfelt celebration of love, shared with all our beloved.
This may sound like an ordinary longing of a modern wedded-to-be couple, but to be honest, finding the right person who would’ve lived up to our expectations, turned out to be harder than we could’ve ever imagined.
I knew exactly what I wanted, but I couldn’t find the right person who would see things my way and understand my needs, since they were a little off the usual path. At that point, I decided to start writing down my thoughts and put them together with whatever came from the heart. So I started writing and doing research and then writing again; I read about all types of ceremonies rituals and wedding etiquette and learned about processional and recessional and all that comes in between. I spent hours reading books and poems about love and committment (I actually loved that part), finding the right track to be sung and cobbling everything together, then I finally came up with the ceremony speech I had so long dreamed about. It was simple but touching, and what’s most important, it was a tale about us, our union, our story.
So we asked one of our dearest friends if she would’ve felt it to be our Officiant for the day, although she had never done it before in her life! I can’t say she didn’t do a good job that day, everyone was astounded and teared up at the end: even the most skeptical who thought we were going to mess up a traditional occurrence. But as an afterthought, I guess it would have been better if I had asked someone who wasn’t emotionally involved, to perform our ceremony speech. That’s simply because one can hardly ever control their emotions, and having to carry out such an important moment in the lives of the two people standing in front of you, is never an easy job if you’re emotionally involved in their story. I’ll just mention she was so nervous, she forgot to ask people to take their seats after the processional… so we ended up having everyone standing for the entire ceremony, asking themselves what were all the chairs for?! 🙂
So that’s when everything came clear to me. I realized that nowadays, not all spouses are longing for a traditional ten-minutes-legal-speech ceremony anymore. As hard as they may try setting up everything themselves and taking care of all aspects, they can never have the complete certainty that everything will go perfectly during their ceremony. And let’s face it: those 20 minutes of words spoken and rings being exchanged, when you pledge your love and commitment to each other in front of all your beloved, that’s what shall make your wedding successful and unforgettable.
I felt like I wanted to help those ailing couples getting their long dreamed wedding ceremony, providing my personally gained experience and spare them the concern for the unexpected. Because, who better knows what you’re going through and what are your doubts and expectations about it, than the one who had experienced this the hard way, previously.
And that’s when I started working as an Officiant. I began giving a hand to my closest friends, who were to be married in the short run. I started creating and performing their customized wedding ceremonies and before I knew it, I found myself in love with doing this.
Loving what I do is what keeps my enthusiasm going, it makes me want to exceed all expectations and provide the best tailored, heartfelt and most memorable symbolic ceremonies.