Every love story is unique, and so should be your wedding ceremony. Whether you prefer a Humanist, Secular or Non-denominational service, the aim is to fully meet your expectations and reflect your personalities and beliefs.
Chosing the type of ceremony that trully represents you is not always an easy job. Some may get lost in the multitude of rituals they find while roaming the internet for inspiration. Others may end up cobbling together a buch of senseless phrases that don’t really represent their story.
Whether you’re searching for an off-the-books Humanist (or Secular) Ceremony, rather than a Non denominational or just a simple Blessing, a Unity Ritual, or a multicultural/interfaith touch to it, here’s some things you need to know, that will give you a clearer insight on all this, helping you choose the one that best suits you!
- The Symbolic Ceremony – so we’ve been mentioning the symbolic ceremony all the way through, but what does it really mean? Well, just because it’s called ‘symbolic’ doesn’t mean it has to be staged or soemhow faked. Actually it’s the exact same service as a classical wedding ceremony, with the processional, the readings, the vows, declaration of intent and rings exchanged, but with no legally binding value. Having a Destination Wedding anywhere in the world, means you’ll have to eventually get married abroad, but that’s not always possible, or easy… or maybe in the budget! So a Symbolic Ceremony is the perfect solution to that! You can take care of all the legal paperwork formalities at home and opt for a more heartfelt, romantic celebration of your union elsewhere; or you can get legally married here in Italy, signing the papers at the local City Hall one or two days previous to your wedding date and celebrate your special day with a meaningful personalized service. What really matters is how you feel in that very moment, when you hold hands and pledge your love to each other – it can’t get more real than that. The best part of having a symbolic ceremony in Italy is that you can have it your way!
- A Humanist Ceremony – is a celebration of life, representing people who do not belong to any religion, but believe in taking responsability for their actions and base their ethics on the goals of human welfare, happiness and fulfillment; find out more about Humanism -> here!
- A Secular vs Non-denominational Ceremony – a secular wedding ceremony includes nonreligious wording, rituals, vows and readings, while a non-denominational wedding ceremony might include supernatural references; however, non-denominational ceremonies are not restricted to any particular religious denomination and therefore can be tailored to meet your own spitirual beliefs, with no actual religious involvement or enforcement. This aspect is entirely optional and based on the couple’s requests and beliefs, and doesn’t come as pro or contrary to any Christian, Catholic, Protestant or other religious tradition.
- Interfaith and Multicultural Ceremonies – many couples often come form different cultural or religious backgrounds, and it may not seem like a big deal, but managing to combine and honor both cultures or faiths in one Ceremony is not such a foregone conclusion. So interfaith or multicultural ceremonies may include readings, rituals and blessings from both religious beliefs or cultural traditons of the couple.
- Unity rituals – are a great way of having unique and creative symbolic ceremonies. Unity rituals are a part of the symbolic ceremonies and they usually come right before exchanging the wedding rings, representing a deeper meaning of two becoming one. Every ritual has its own meaning and history, so it’s very important that you choose yours carefully. It has to be something that truly relates to your story, your wedding theme or your personal beliefs, otherwise it will just look like a clumsy misguided attempt to be original by all means. If you’re thinking of including a unity ritual in your symbolic ceremony, talk it over with your wedding officiant – but don’t let them convince you into having one by all means. Your wedding Officiant / Celebrant should help you choose the kind of ritual that’s most significant and in line with your background, story and wedding theme, or create your own, tailored to your needs: and believe me, there’s no limit to creativity when it comes to unity rituals!
So now that you know what type of ceremony you’re going for, all you need is someone able to reorder your thoughts, incorporate all the elements, think about what’s missing and schedule everything with the musicians, photographers (and eventually your wedding planners), giving you advice when needed and being ready to cope with the unexpected. And – what’s most important – perform your ceremony with enthusiasm and excitement.