I love creating bespoke wedding ceremonies. Whether you prefer a Humanist, Secular or Non-denominational ceremony, they’re always designed to fully meet your expectations and reflect your personalities and beliefs.
Chosing a symbolic ceremony that trully represents you is not always an easy job. Some may get lost in the multitude of rituals they find while roaming the internet for inspiration. Others may end up cobbling together a buch of senseless phrases that don’t really represent their story.
Whether you’re searching for an off-the-books Humanist (or Secular) Ceremony, rather than a Non denominational or just a simple Symbolic Ceremony with a Unity ritual, or a multicultural/interfaith touch, here’s some things you need to know, that will give you a clearer insight on all this, helping you choose the one that best suits you!
- The Symbolic Ceremony – so we’ve been mentioning the symbolic ceremony all the way through, but what doeas it really mean? Well, it’s the exact same as a classical wedding ceremony, with the processional, the readings, the vows, declaration of intent and rings exchanged, but with no legal or binding value. Having a Destination Wedding anywhere in the world, means you’ll have to eventually get married abroad, but that’s not always possible, or easy… or maybe in the budget! So a Symbolic Ceremony is the perfect solution to that: your guests won’t even have to know it’s not the ‘real’ wedding! Actually that’s a very common request I get from my couples… it remains our little secret! You can take care of all the legal paperwork formalities at home and maybe sign a Symbolic Certificate on your wedding day, in front of all your guests; or you can get legally married here, signing the papers at the local City Hall one or two days previous to your wedding date!
- A Humanist Ceremony – is a celebration of life, representing people who do not belong to any religion, but believe in taking responsability for their actions and base their ethics on the goals of human welfare, happiness and fulfillment; find out more about Humanism -> here!
- A Secular vs Non-denominational Ceremony – a secular wedding ceremony includes nonreligious wording, rituals, vows and readings, while a non-denominational wedding ceremony might include supernatural references; however, non-denominational ceremonies are not restricted to any particular religious denomination and therefore can be tailored to meet your own beliefs, with no actual religious involvement or enforcement. This aspect is entirely optional and based on the couple’s requests and beliefs, and doesn’t come as pro or contrary to any Christian, Catholic, Protestant or other religious tradition.
- Interfaith and Multicultural Ceremonies – many couples often come form different cultural or religious backgrounds, and it may not seem like a big deal, but managing to combine and honor both cultures or faiths in one Ceremony is not such a foregone conclusion. So interfaith or multicultural ceremonies may include readings, rituals and blessings from both religious beliefs or cultural traditons of the couple.
- Unity rituals – are a great way of having unique and creative symbolic ceremonies. Unity rituals are a part of the symbolic ceremonies and they usually come right before exchanging the wedding rings, representing a deeper meaning of two becoming one. Every ritual has its own meaning and history, so it’s very important that you choose yours carefully. It has to be something that really relates to your story, your wedding theme or your personal beliefs, otherwise it will just look like a clumsy misguided attempt to be original by all means. If you’re thinking of including a unity ritual in your symbolic ceremony, talk it over with your wedding officiant. They’ll help you pick the one that’s most significant and in line with your wedding, or create your own tailored to your needs: there’s no limit to creativity when it comes to unity rituals!
So now that you know what type of ceremony you’re going for, all you need is someone able to reorder your thoughts, incorporate all the elements, think about what’s missing and schedule everything with the musicians (and eventually your wedding planners), giving you advice when needed and being ready to cope with the unexpected. And – what’s most important – perform your ceremony with enthusiasm and excitement.
Above all, a wedding ceremony is the celebration of a couple and their intentions to build a life and a home together in a commited relationship. So the whole speech should be focused on you two – as individuals and as a couple – and should highlight your commitment and your love story. So the right design of your ceremony will come from you, as I listen to what you’ve been through so far, what brought you to this moment, what you wish and hope for.
As much as the celebration is a moment about the two of you, it is also very important that you connect and resonate with your guests, engaging them at a very human and emotional level.
So I’ll be guiding you to making the right choices for your ceremony, while getting to know you and see you through to the day of your wedding, making sure everything flows together perfectly, stress-free and full of smiles!